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Feb 19, 2023Liked by Kris Burbank

Thanks for sharing.

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Sorry for your loss, Kris. Thank you for sharing your reflections.

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Feb 12, 2023Liked by Kris Burbank

Kris, this is wonderful. My mom passed just 2 yrs ago on 2/10. Not a day goes by that we don't reflect on how we all feel and laugh at certain situations we faced. My mother, myself and both my children have Tourette's Syndrome along with other issues that are on the autism spectrum. When we where in high school at Sycamore no one understood why I was always moving or making sounds. HS was very hard for me to focus, but I learned who my friends were and how to get by. I felt I was definitely bullied but not to the point I gave up. My mom wouldn't let me. Being she was a teacher at Reading HS, I had standards to live by. Raising a family with special needs takes a lot of love, guidance and strength. As I refelect on your writing I realize my mom and yours, gave us the strength and willpower to accomplish anything and that our children, no matter what their affliction is will survive and flourish as well. Thank you for reminding me that we are all human and reaching out, learning and teaching others is how we snd our children survive. You have always been an inspiration for me as I have watched your children grow into these amazing adults. That's because of you and your husband, and how your parents raised you. Don't ever forget that. Pamela Brower Chundrlek, Sycamore 81'

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Wishing you peace, comfort, and courage at this time.

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Feb 11, 2023Liked by Kris Burbank

Sending love and hugs❤️

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Feb 11, 2023Liked by Kris Burbank

thank you for sharing Kris. I loved this blog so much and I'm so very sorry about the loss of your Mom. She was an amazing women who raised a truly amazing women. Sending so much love ❤️

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Feb 11, 2023Liked by Kris Burbank

Contemplating, after the sudden loss of your beloved mother, I thought about my own daughter who will be 50 soon and what I can do for her should I too go suddenly. 1) Always end our parting, FaceTimes & calls with an I Love You and no anger. We mostly do that now, but will for certain should it be our last. 2) Have a special item(s) so my grandkids know I want them to have that from me. Also, while all my personal possessions go to Tova, have something special for her and Philip. I did this before leaving for a cruise of The South China Sea about 8 years ago. Allan asked if I thought I was going to die and I said I hoped not but had a bad feeling. As it turned out, we ended up in the midst of a very scary typhoon. Cruises haven’t been my friend. 3) on special occasions, such as birthdays I remind my daughter, grandkids and son-in-law how much I love them and am proud of them. I do it in writing so they will always be reminded. 4) Like your mother, I visit frequently and support all as much as they allow. 5) we do selfies on occasion when I visit.

I send my love and deep condolences to you and your family and hope, in the end like your Mother, I leave my family with joyful memories and no doubt of my love for them. 🫂

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Feb 11, 2023Liked by Kris Burbank

❤️

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Sending a steady stream of hugs, squeezes and “atta-boys” to all of you as you navigate your lives. 😘😘 Lovely post.

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Feb 11, 2023Liked by Kris Burbank

Loving condolences to you, John and family. ❤️

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So very sorry for the loss of you mom. And thank you for sharing. I love Another Normal and knowing I’m not alone. I do wonder about how our special needs (now adult) kids process the loss of loved ones. More importantly tho, you have me thinking about my own mortality and my son’s future. At 24 he is still home w us and my greatest wish is to find him an appropriate forever home at an amazing residential facility. (After being rejected due to physical disability & lack of staff I’m starting to question if such a utopia exists.) What will become of our children remains my greatest concern/fear/challenge. (((HUGS)))

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Christine, Thx for commenting. The unexpected loss of my mom has me thinking these same thoughts constantly. Interestingly, my son told me yesterday that he is now thinking more about what it will be like when his parents die (!). No out running it, I'm afraid. Please reach out to me anytime via email if you want to talk further about finding a forever home for your son. Happy to help you brainstorm or just prioritize your concerns. Stronger together -- always. -kris.anothernormal@gmail.com

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Kris it saddens me reading about the loss of your mom. I remember meeting her once many years ago. Such a lovely person. Sending you love at this difficult time.

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